Welcome to myordinarytrauma
This site is for you if you have been discarded by a long-term, intimate partner. I write about what happened to me, what I needed to know but couldn’t find at the time and what I have learnt since.
This site includes an account of how I integrated this significantly destabilising experience to find a new way of being in the world.
About Me
My relationship of 15 years ended without warning. In that time, I have had to deal with the impact of trauma and chronic stress, make sense of what happened, and rebuild my self.
My healing in the end has come from a four year-long enquiry into what he did, its’ impact and why being discarded in this way was so difficult. My belief is that if more of what I learned was available and understood more widely, my distress and healing would have been less challenging.
I hope that sharing this helps you feel seen and that perhaps you might spend less time than I did looking for reasons and more time focusing on acknowledging that something harmful was done to you and rebuilding your world.
Perhaps if you are a friend of, or professional working with, people like me, it might offer you some ideas about how best to support them.